1) I can't remember whether you were on LJ before I was - but I probably friended you when you came on to LJ. I think I had already met you in real life by that point and knew you well through AtPO. In this way, you were "friended" in the truest meaning of the word.
2) I guess I'm not one of the people who always says "I wish I could call my friendslist a reading list". I never know what that means. Some of my best friends are books! And their characters! In fact there are loads of my real life friends who are people who I am enormously fond of but true communication happens in bits and pieces - by chance. Conversely, books are direct forms of communication and become a part of me. So reading the writing of friends isn't something I judge or section out in terms of genre or writing. It simply is what it is.
I only pass over stuff when I don't have long internet access. So if my internet access is confined to my morning coffee before I run off to work and that is my sole internet time that day (which is true for this last month) I simply read very quickly and highlight stuff I want to read properly or respond to and come back.
The stuff I find very very difficult to read is dishonesty. But I find that difficult to face in real life too. People lying to themselves. And it's worse if they don't know if they are doing it. I find it so uncomfortable and would rather have as little to do with it as possible. I don't know why this is something I find difficult in friendships - I guess a couple of friendships with some people in university did for me.
As for the last two questions - I don't read LJs as a source of news or entertainment, but simply as letters across the ether, so what demands can you make? What right has anyone to demand that anyone produce anything except to communicate truly what they need to?
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2) I guess I'm not one of the people who always says "I wish I could call my friendslist a reading list". I never know what that means. Some of my best friends are books! And their characters! In fact there are loads of my real life friends who are people who I am enormously fond of but true communication happens in bits and pieces - by chance. Conversely, books are direct forms of communication and become a part of me. So reading the writing of friends isn't something I judge or section out in terms of genre or writing. It simply is what it is.
I only pass over stuff when I don't have long internet access. So if my internet access is confined to my morning coffee before I run off to work and that is my sole internet time that day (which is true for this last month) I simply read very quickly and highlight stuff I want to read properly or respond to and come back.
The stuff I find very very difficult to read is dishonesty. But I find that difficult to face in real life too. People lying to themselves. And it's worse if they don't know if they are doing it. I find it so uncomfortable and would rather have as little to do with it as possible. I don't know why this is something I find difficult in friendships - I guess a couple of friendships with some people in university did for me.
As for the last two questions - I don't read LJs as a source of news or entertainment, but simply as letters across the ether, so what demands can you make? What right has anyone to demand that anyone produce anything except to communicate truly what they need to?