I'm glad you find the fandom as a female space cosy and comfortable, that's great! I think there's nothing wrong at all about that. I think what I want is what you say, a fandom with feminist values without being necessarly all female, a fandom with progressive and tolerant values generally speaking, and where all kinds of differences are welcomed and token as given. A feeling of kinship despite the diversity because we're all into the same things - even if the specifics isn't always the very same ^^