I am a girl and I am in fandom, but I certainly don't feel like a "fangirl." Mostly, this is due to the fact that I hate slash and yaoi just as much as fanboys (though I am certainly not a fanboy). Maybe it's all in my head, but it seems like slash is one of the big thing that fangirls see as unifying them as a group and separating them from the boys, a huge part of "the female experience of fandom"... but what about us female fans who don't like it? I am not sure where in fandom we fit in. I would feel more at ease in a non-gendered fandom as well.