In this case I would remove it and apologize right away as, well, I agree that it's a problematic term. If I didn't get it, I would ask first, and then if I understood why and agreed I'd remove it and apologize. If, theoretically, I didn't, well I dunno, I still might remove it but I'd possibly continue arguing the point, just because if you don't get why then it's a meaningless gesture anyway. But ultimately I wouldn't grandstand unless I thought there was an important reason for the debated phrase to be there; if it's just as good as anything else, and if I can buy the sincerity of the objector, I'd probably remove it.