And another meme about flist in general

[salinea]

from mamadeb

If you read this journal on a regular/semi regular basis, leave me a comment and let me know.

Then post this in your lj and find out who reads you.

In fact I'm also curious about :

- why/how did you friend me ?
- is it the same reason why you're still reading ?
- what do you look forward to/like reading on my LJ ?
- what are you not interested / pass over ?
- is there any specific criticism you'd make of my LJ/ my interaction with you on LJ in general ?
- do you have any specific question for me and my LJ, something you've always wanted to know ?

but those are purely bonus questions if you want to answer them ^^

Comments

[etrangere.livejournal.com]

Yes :p

no, not really. I see lots of people commenting in general on my flist who haven't posted there.

I think it's the third comment you've made on my journal so I tended to assume you didn't really read unless you were bored. I always got the impression nothing much interest you on my journal, but I might be wrong ! I'm no stranger to the pleasure of lurking :)

[dherblay.livejournal.com]

I've been thinking about this for a week -- I'm like that -- commenting, communicating in general is like root canal for me -- and I don't know even whether I'm sad or angry over this. But yes, I don't comment at your journal much. I don't feel I have much to contribute to the conversation. It's interesting, but I'm not a part of it, and were you to require me to pass a test on what you post I'd certainly fail. But I do read what you post a lot of interest if not a lot of relevancy.

To get to my real issue, I was very hurt by your defriending, and I'm not even sure I understand the rationale.

[etrangere.livejournal.com]

I was going to say something earnest and profound in answer but then i got hypnotized by your icon.

Err, all right I don't know what to say. I didn't unfriended you (in a purely LJ sense of the word, of course), because you weren't commenting but because well, I'm always in a crisis of too many people on my flist and too little time to read them all so I have to cut a few of those on occasions... even if I don't like it. I'm sorry it hurt you, I certainly didn't mean to. Nor did it mean I don't want to be your friend anymore.

Blogs are such a strange thing, and I never feel like I totally got the hang of it. As soon as I take a decision about how to use mine, I get to feel uncomfortable with it and change it and then again. So it always end up being a strange bastard thing. I know sometimes I have a hard time relating with what people say, especially with people I friended a long time ago over at ATP because it feels like everyone except me moved on to other TV fandoms while I was moving to other non TV fandoms (I'm just not much of a TV person) but then i keep missing the feel I got out of the Buffy fandom and the people from there and it's strange. Then there's people I don't talk fandom with at all and yet i have no problem relating with. I don't know, it's strange, some people can talk about their personnal life, like when ann1962 talks about her children and I'm right there. It's not anything I know, yet I read, I feel close, I'm with her - whether I comment or not.
And at other times you read something, and even though it's something very interesting and intricate, you don't feel like you can share with them. You're outside watching within and you just can't talk to them. I'm not sure why.

Words are something very precious and magical. They can tie people together, they allow us to communicate. And yet sometimes they work wrong, they make us miscomunicate and make us feel even more at odd and we don't even know why or how to fix it.

Right, I'll stop rambling now.