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Etrangere ([personal profile] salinea) wrote2007-05-22 09:30 pm

Gendered fandoms

While browsing, today, I happened onto a link to this essay on Why do fanboys hate fanfics, especially slash and This is Our Garden. We Like It.. The article fits in a context of several commentaries a few weeks ago about the exclusion of the female experience of fandom by the majorly male fandom - some of which I saw at the time, some of which I missed.

[livejournal.com profile] cupidsbow's essay How Fanfictions makes us Poor which I already linked to was part of it too, I think.

Anyway, there's a lot of stuff on these discussions that made me angry as a woman against the systemicized sexism in fandom... but there's also something about the issue of gendered fandoms that really upsets me.

I've spent a majority of my "fandom life" within male dominated fandoms - first generalist Science Fiction newsgroup then Roleplaying Games clubs and forums. The kind of places where women make about 10 to 20% at most of the overall population. I've had to suffer to a lot of sexism, outright misogyny and sexual teasing. I went along with it because I wanted into the fandom and I didn't know anywhere else to get it and also because I'd been ostracized and bullied enough previously that the attention as the token girl and object of sexist and sexual jokes seemed actually an improvement.

Later on, I found some previously more mixed fandoms. ASOIAF has got, I think, about 40% of women at Ran's board. The part of Buffy's fandom I frequented, Masq's awesome ATPoBtVS had, I believe, a majority of women with a very significant male presence as well.

But it's only when I joined the Clamp's Tokyo Babylon/X's fandom in 2004 on Livejournal that I really found myself within female dominated fandoms. Fanfics as a fandom is extremely majorly made of women, I don't think men make more than 5% of it. In many ways the resulting dynamic rather surprised me. There's a lot I enjoyed from it. The welcome of feminist and queer-friendly values for one, and the warmth of people. No more dissing the female SF writers, or fantasy as a whole, or other ridiculous stuff.

There's also some things I disliked, such as the frowning upon any kind of disagreement/non positive comments, and all the things people sometime characterize as the "Cult of Nice". I'm not sure I'm so much more a fan of the Cult of Mean either, which is often horribly self-entitled, but I love debate, and I love getting helpful constructive criticism, and sometimes I'm being an ass in a discussion and I need someone to point it out to me politely (after which I can cool off then appologize). I also miss a bit of the obsessive mapping out details and powers and worldbuiling elements and stuff. Actually screw this, because people do it just as compulsively in female fandom, what I do miss is obsessive symbolical and thematic analysis which seems to catter to specific fandoms regardless of the gender makeover. What I do occasionnaly miss in female fandom is the way people don't seem to get the inherent kicking-ass awesomeness of ninja and pirates (unless talking of Jack Sparrow I s'pose) and Kung-Fu Jesus and heroin-pissing dinosaurs*

So when I get annoyed with that side of fanfic fandom and want a little bit of the other side I miss, I get back to lurking at, say, the RPG.net board, where I can see someone explaining his dilemna about one of his player telling him "No bitches at the table"

Insert visual of me face palming.

Lately it feels like I've seen more and more people talking in terms of fangirls and fanboys. The categories were new to me, but apparently they come with specific, different stereotypes where the fanboy is your everyday Dork and the fangirl squeals a lot about characters/actors being hotties. I've seen at least one person say she wouldn't like to identify as a fangirl but that it was okay for the fanboy because the stereotype had somewhat mellowed and become more hype and cool since big geeks like Joss Whedon, Kevin Smith and Tarantino started taking over Hollywood or something whereas the fangirl stereotype was still depraciated as hell which rather rejoined the whole point of the essay I mentionned at the start of this post.

But behind this I also get the impression that it's true to people. That women and men are whole different brands of fen, that they want something radically different from the text, that they play differently with the toys. That they don't fit in the same sandbox.

I'm not a fangirl. I'm certainly not a fanboy either. I'm a fan. Period.

I'm a fan who likes fanfics and roleplaying games, obsessive symbolical analysis, sociological meta, compulsive reviews of details and powers and worldbuilding stuff, and occasionnaly even fanart and fanvids and of course, the books/shows/texts too. It's all one for me.

It's not that I disaprove of what the essay talks about, about the whole fact that women said 'it's a big internet', took their stuff and the toys given by the text, and used them to play with it in their very own female space. I think that's really cool and proactive and awesome.

It's the fact that what I'd like to call my garden would be a place with equal parts of male and female point of views and welcome them all - just for the sake of diversity. (And gays, and non Americans, and gender queers, and Blacks, and people who don't have always a very correct syntax, and, and, and, too)

There's the question of whether it'd be even possible. If being just an even fraction of "regular" fandom would mean that the female part be co-opted and the female experience of fandom end up marginalized as it's once more 'All about the boy'.

I'd like to believe that it is. I've known places on the internet that were at least a little bit like this. That doesn't mean that they should not be female spaces as well...

But I'd really love to belong, myself, to a non-gendered fandom. I think that's the place where I'd be the more at ease.

Is that a bad thing to want?



* this is an obscure reference to the Role Playing Game Exalted which has canonically dinosaurs who eat Opium and pisses Heroin. It's a lucrative business. Exalted isalso an awesome game where homsexuality, gender queerness, bestiality, incest, and reincarnated magical bonds are all canon. It's a bit like the Harry Potter fandom of roleplaying games that way.

ETA: -- Spoilers for A Song of Ice and Fire - A Storm of Swords in the comments --

[identity profile] redcandle17.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 07:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Regarding ASoIaF, I don't know the gender ratio but there's still a lot of misogyny there. The female characters are judged much more harshly and for lesser offenses than male characters. And there are some opinions that are just mind boggling. I recently had spat with someone on Ran's board that took up two pages of the thread because "she*" was insisting that Tyrion should have raped Sansa on their wedding night and that Sansa would even have enjoyed it.

There's also subtle sexism such as scorn for shipping threads despite the ubiquity of "who's the best fighter" threads. I want balance. I want to be able to discuss who's the best fighter and who's in love with whom. After all, love and sex are the reasons for the wars in the series.

* The poster claims to be female but I don't want to believe that a woman would make such sickening statements. I also doubt that any woman would claim Sandor was less physically desirable than Tyrion.

[identity profile] kethlenda.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 07:57 pm (UTC)(link)
If being a fangirl means being primarily in fandom to squee over the hotness of (insert character or actor name here), then that's not me.

And I've seen "fanboy" used to mean the sort of fan who doesn't bathe, has no social skills, and opens conversations with total strangers by telling them what his character did last night--I complain sometimes about lacking social skills, but that stereotype's not me either.

I see myself as a geek, who obsesses about certain fandoms because I love the plots and the characters. I don't think I look at the texts differently from the way men do, but a few male fen I've met assume that I do.

And the same guys who think I only read HP for the hot men? They're the ones who have posters of babes in chainmail bikinis all over their walls...

Bah, I'm rambling, and not very coherently...

[identity profile] kethlenda.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 07:58 pm (UTC)(link)
That icon. I love it so much.

[identity profile] c-mantix.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Interesting observations.

I didn't realise that fandoms were gendered until last year, when I got my LJ. Hitherto, I'd only been in the Buffy fandom, which is just about as non-gendered as a fandom is going to get anytime soon, I think.

What stumps me is the need groups of fans (fang gangs) feel to destroy or chase away that which differs from their vision. I try to ride solo around the groups, but fandoms are not always comfortable place to be.

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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, Ran's boar has always had a lot of sexism despite the fact it's got a very significant female presence. It's really annoying.

I think in this case it's part of the fact it's always been very wanky overall politically. (I can't believe it's never been F_Wanked) There's always some very wacky, rude and completly outrageous discussion somewhere, even though there's also a lot of intelligent, sane and fun people ^^

But you're right about the archetypal "who'd win in a fight" threads vs. the shippy ones. There's also the fact fanfics were banned away from it very early on (thanks to GRRM's himself, I guess, but still).

Urgh on that thread. I can believe it's a woman, some women are too often using sexist tropes themselves. I think Sansa's wedding was, to me, the most traumatic reading of the whole series (!!!) so you can imagine how relieved i was Tyrion didn't have sex with her. I like Tyrion, but Sansa.... well. That'd been the most horrible kind of rape.
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:05 pm (UTC)(link)
*pokes* look at her other icons!
And, then, look at her ASOIAF fanfics. There are SOIAF fics! And they're even good!
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:10 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't think a lot of people are "that stereotype", by virtue of stereotypes being shallow and simplistic. But I saw people using "fanboy" and "fangirl" with a straight face as something they identified as... and O_o. Actually even as stereotypes I'm happy with the gendered insults they consist of. The world needs more genderblind insults ^^

I see myself as a geek primarly as well, really.

HP for the hot men? Which hot men? Did they put hot men in HP and nobody told me about??!! Beyond Krum and Cedric and Tennant, that is?

[identity profile] kethlenda.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:14 pm (UTC)(link)
LOL! Well, maybe Lucius too...

But I think it's assumed, in some circles, that HP fen are all in it for Tom Felton, who I don't find attractive at all...
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I didn't realize fandom was gendered until I got out of the Buffy fandom either! lol

Really Masq's board was a big breath of fresh air and my model of what a fandom ought to be. I wish I could find something similar for any and all fandoms.

I think the Buffy fandom, overall, was slightly more female in some places at least. Outside of ATP I know the couple of Spike centric and fanfic boards/Ml I went to were strongly female.
Okay that makes sense for obvious reason, I suppose.

The networking is a feature - it can be helpful and it can be damned annoying. As a very contrarian by nature I think I rather agree with you. I hate to dive into the coolest new thing all the cool kids are at! It's also interesting to see the shift between board centric dynamics and LiveJournal. How do you find Live Journal about that, by opposition with forums?
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[identity profile] masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:16 pm (UTC)(link)
LJ was my first exposure to the idea of "gendered" fandoms as well. Prior to that, I was at the Bronze for a couple years, and then Mod of ATPo for the next four years, at which point we expanded ourselves over to LJ.

I'm realizing how atypical and sheltered ATPo was. We were mixed gender, and gender was never an issue. People were, for the most part, polite and fun-loving, fan fic was barely a blip on the monitor compared to discussion and essay. We had our melt-downs and kerfuffles (the Spike-Angel wars, anyone?) and trolls, but we rode those out and survived.

I never frequented any other boards (including LJ) during the height of the ATPo era (2000-2003), and the way fandom was expressed on LJ came across as very weird. But LJ's format, allowing communities to spring up over every little quirk, seems to lend itself to people dividing themselves up along gender lines, character- and ship-preference lines, and any other lines. Which is good if you have a fandom quirk and want to meet like-minded souls (I didn't know many Connor fans until I moved over here), but it's a mixed blessing.
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Lucius is okay if a bit old and camp ^^ Very camp.

Tom Felton = double ewwws for me. I rather like Draco but thinking of the character as Felton makes me want to retch. I don't get why he's supposed to be hot.

Dan is okay in a rather bland way. I don't see the appeal either.

[identity profile] redcandle17.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I think ASoIaF can be called a feminist series in the sense that female characters get the same weight as the male characters; that we see women waiting and praying and fearing during battles, not just men fighting. That's huge. I've never seen that before in that genre. Most writers (and readers) think a few female warriors constitute gender equality and ignore the fact that that approach ignores the experiences of the vast majority of women. GRRM is phenomenal at characterization and I marvel that a middle aged man can write a young girl whose thoughts, feelings, and behavior is so realistic.

This is why I'm especially disturbed by the sexism or outright misogyny in the fandom. It seems like Arya is the only major female character who doesn't get extreme hatred directed at her...and she is prepubescent, which I don't think is a coincidence. Sometimes I think some of the fans are reading a different version of the series than the one I read; a version where the women and adolescent girls are all evil bitches whose thoughts and feelings don't matter. This manifests most obviously in people who hate Sansa for hurting Tyrion's feelings by not having sex with him nevermind the psychological trauma it would have caused her, and in the guy who insists that Catelyn is "evil" because of one comment she made to Jon.

[identity profile] c-mantix.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:36 pm (UTC)(link)
As a very contrarian by nature

Hee! You need an icon with 'Contrarian, by nature' as a caption:) And I want an icon that has the caption 'Steely Opinionated, but inclined to Mary Sue at random'!

Honestly, I find that LJ is slightly less elitist and cliquish than the boards were/are. I am very happy not to have to deal with trolls or with posters who appoint themselves as intellectual arbiters for a certain branch of a fandom. On LJ, I think posters are slightly less intimidated about posting and are more inclined to express their true opinion. OTOH, the quality (content) of discussion is often more abbreviated and the threads, more ephemeral. A good thread, though, has the potential to be linked so many more times than on the board.

For my part, I find that the human element makes up for the less intellectual bent of the debates. I like the mix of 'squee', 'how are you going', 'lets meta like mad'. LOL.

[identity profile] c-mantix.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:38 pm (UTC)(link)
But LJ's format, allowing communities to spring up over every little quirk, seems to lend itself to people dividing themselves up along gender lines, character- and ship-preference lines, and any other lines.

I hadn't thought of that, but you are right! This makes me glad that 1) the core of my flist is ATPO and 2) that my own interests are varied enough to span gender lines...

[identity profile] redcandle17.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:41 pm (UTC)(link)
[livejournal.com profile] chilvi_cos made it. Heartbreaking, isn't it? I don't get how people can wish rape on my poor little girl. *cuddles Sansa*

[identity profile] redcandle17.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:48 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know if you've read this already but in case you haven't, [livejournal.com profile] unanon wrote a very nice Sansa/Sandor (http://nonanu.livejournal.com/29011.html) fic.
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[identity profile] masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:51 pm (UTC)(link)
I think if I had discovered fandom via LJ, I would have quickly vacated fandom all together and not gotten involved. I still can't relate to what 90% of my LJ flist gets excited about, and the level of kerfuffling has kept me from doing anything really fannish at all anymore (outside of my couple lingering fic projects, which have their small, but steady readership).

Mostly, I'm here to keep up with the lives of the ATPoers.
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 08:54 pm (UTC)(link)
I think ASOIAF has a lot of good, feminist appeal. I think GRRM set out to use and subvert some of fantasy's archetypes among which the female characters stereotyps and was very successful with some but not quite so with others (I'm not very happy with the way he deals with Cersei, for one).

The number of people who hate Sansa is incredible and very annoying to me. Like the people who blame her for Ned's death, rather than, you know, hating Littlefinger, Joffrey, Cersei and Ned himself (Sansa was no smarter than Ned but she was certainly not worse, and Ned's also to blame for having a nice talk with his favourite daughter Arya and seemingly forgetting to have it with Sansa). The thing with Tyrion is totally ridiculous, especially given that Sansa rather recognizes the fact that Tyrion is kind to her (and tells him so!). Tyrion's issues with women and self-esteem issues overall are definitly not Sansa's fault nor her responsability to deal with!

The whole thing comes from the point of view that women only matters for how they relate to men, men's desires, men's angst, etc. blargh.
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 10:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I hadn't. Now, I have. Thanks for pointing to it ^^

[identity profile] purple-chalk.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)
I'd be saying nothing that hasn't already been said (and more eloquently than I'm capable of) if I tried to actually formulate a reply to this, but I just wanted to put in that I'd really like to take you in to sociology for show-and-tell.

[identity profile] purple-chalk.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 11:04 pm (UTC)(link)
Off-topically, am I the only one that gets the desperate desire to shorten that to "fwanked"? It just sounds really cool in my head, with the fw- sound...

[identity profile] sakanagi.livejournal.com 2007-05-22 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Nope, nothing wrong with wanting non-gendered fandom. It's something I've been thinking about a little...The thing is, though, that since I've been in the Tokyo Babylon/X fandom (and other fandoms like it) which are dominated by women, I've found it much more pleasant to interact with people in those than I have in other fandoms. In a way I've been thinking "Isn't this nice?" about seeing these mostly-female fandoms and the things they've created. It's a cosy sort of feeling, really.

Anyway, I've wondered about why that is, since isn't it wrong to be pleased that it's mostly female? And now that I've thought about it, it probably wasn't that at all. The men who are in the fandom are treated just like anyone else, as they should be, and it'd be fine if there were more of them. It's the culture of these fandoms that's the difference. The reason I've been more comfortable in my current fandoms is mainly that they don't tend to attract people who hold certain values which can't fail to irritate me. For example, it's is very, very difficult to be a homophobe in the CLAMP fandom. And because of that, there don't tend to be, say, ardent right-wing fundamentalists. In some previous fandoms of mine there have been plenty of those sorts of people, and they were amazingly irritating. Plus, my current fandoms tend to attract older fans, who tend to be more coherent. Any men wandering into theses fandoms are likely to be people who are okay by me.

[identity profile] imadra-blue.livejournal.com 2007-05-23 01:49 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, before online fandoms, I was pretty much into the male side, too. Roleplaying, collecting, etc. My interests are often patronized or dismissed, and having been sheletered by the more female-dominated side of fandom, it irritates me that it still exists. I'm not into sexual segregration. I would love it if more males hung out in our corner and more females hung out in theirs. I just wish I knew a way to bridge the gap...

[identity profile] the-corbie.livejournal.com 2007-05-23 08:31 am (UTC)(link)
Personally I can't be arsed with either shipping or 'who would win in a fight' threads. I find both equally uninteresting. ;)

As for sexism... there is some on the book forums, yes, but it certainly doesn't usually come from the same people who express some of the rather distasteful political views that you get on General Chatter, at least not for the last few years. They're different species of troll, and I would know. :p The number of boarders who regularly post in both areas is small.

The sexism on the book forums tends to come from teenage boys mostly, and rightly or wrongly, I don't expect them to know any better. I think in their case it stems from the simple fact that they find characters like Sansa, Dany and Cat boring and are unable or unwilling to relate to them.

There's more to it, of course. There are, for example, the female boarders who hate these characters. Often this comes from what you might term 'internalised prejudice': the worst kind, in my opinion. Much less prevalent but more worrying.

Still, the amount of sexism isn't that bad, comparatively.

On Tyrion/Sansa, btw, one boarder has the following in his sig:

"I think I have officially become a Sansa/Shagga shipper now...
of course, that would mean Shagga stepping in and taking what Tyrion is rightfully entitled to recieve (Sansa's maidenhead)... so it does sadden me a little..."

*shudders*
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[identity profile] etrangere.livejournal.com 2007-05-23 10:27 am (UTC)(link)
fwanked sounds like a very fun and a perfectly perfect word. Adjuged!

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