I read a bit into the posts that seemed to have started these discussions. And I think the biggest wankers are those who posted the entry in fandom_wank. (I did not read the discussion there, because 1128 replies is a bit too much). The original poster just made an observation, it was not even very confrontative. The last comments in metafandom, including the one you are referring to, were interesting.

I think every one has every right to raise awareness about any sort of privilege, without getting insulted. But that's the point with privilege those who benefit from it don't always see it.

P.S.: J'ai uns question personelle. J'éspère que tu ne la trouves pas trop indiscret. As-tu visité Paris en mars 2000 et logé dans un Youth Hostel près du Gare-de-Lion?