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Date: 13 July 2005 06:16 pm (UTC)You know that's what I should do. Getting back into board. I still recieve many mailinglist but I so not read them ^^.
LJ is awkward. I rarely ask people to friend me, as I'm too shy about it.
Yeah, I remember when I harassed you into joining the shrine and then friended you. God, I'm shameless... >_>
but now I just do it only if I know them from somewhere else, I find their posts interesting or any other special circunstances. Also, if they stalk me for months and they never comment in my blog, chances are I'm not wasting my time with them, especially if I find their journal too personal and full of RL references I don't get at all.
Sounds about a much better way to handle things.
I definitly don't think anyone is supposed to friend back someone just because they friended them first. Especially in cases of sneak-friends.
I friend people too easily. I act like that in life too, and it's always caused be problems. I always had a hard time making deeper ties with people. I have true friends now, but I didn't use to until I was maybe 17 or 18.
Then I noticed my audience doesn't care a lot about my own life, they just keep coming for fandom and randomness.
Yeah sadly, it's often true...
Somehow, I don't want to know who cares about my problems, as it can lead to know who doesn't. And it might break my heart if an important friend won't post in a personal entry, while they will in a fandom entry the next day.
The dynamics of when to comment or not to a personnal post is always very difficult.
When I've posted personnal posts, I know I was sometimes disturbed, surprised and touched by wom would answer. They were often not the people I was thinking would. Sometimes I didn't really want to have people answer my posts too... (I should just learn to remove the possibility to comment but it freaks me out when other people do that so I try to avoid it)
I've answered some very personnal posts from people, telling about similar personnal experiences... and I felt hurt when they never answered me. Sometimes I don't dare posting because it's from someone I don't feel like I know them enough, or because I just don't know what to say.
People often do not know how to deal with very personnal stories, especially if they're very disturbing and sad.
I don't want to read your "dear diary" sort of thing, I'm not your high school bestest friend.
I agree. There's very few people on my flist I'd be interested for that kind of things from.
It's supposed to be for fun, right?
Lots of people forget that about fandom, I think...
*hugs* Thanks for your comment, it was very interesting (and made much sense, actually)